Saturday, March 10, 2007

ATTITUDE THERAPY


CHANGING THE WAY YOU ''SEE'' IT


---When we have the right attitude, we can do almost anything. When our attitude is right, there is very little that can stop us. When our attitude is wrong for the situation we are in, getting out safely becomes something we are not sure of.
---There are so many words that we have to define our ''attitudes.'' We can be happy, sad, confident, needy, etc.. Our feelings to what we are relating to, denote the attitude we have towards it. Our attitudes cross all of Human Emotion.
---When we are comfortable with what we are relating to, we are more relaxed. The opposite is also true - If we are NOT comfortable with what we relate to, we are nervous, more stressed, tense, whathaveyou. This is reflected in our BP, also.
---I tend toward being anxious and excitable. My BP reflects that. It would do me well to take things more in stride and to not be such a ''People - Pleaser.'' This is my MO - What do I do?
---Let's look at PP. I have sought approval for as long as I can remember. I don't become involved in ''things'' that may not elicit approval. I become very much conscious of my own self - image and what people may think.
---If I engage myself in things that enhance my image to myself and others, than I am on ‘’the beaten path.’’ If I find that I am doing something that I myself have not accepted, than I am ‘’looking’’ to the ‘’judging’’ eyes of another, to see how what I‘m doing may affect the perception of me.
---When we have an OBJECTIVE Attitude and
Outlook, we seem to do better. We see things as they are as opposed to putting our own SUBJECTIVE spin on things. What we want to do is to’’see’’ the NEEDS and PREFERENCES that have us make the choices we do.
---I would suggest that you look at a list you make of ‘’Needs and Preferences,’’ and see which are real and separate out the ones you only ‘’think’’ you need. With this list, it should be clear to you where you stand and why you have the ATTITUDES you do. There is a good chance you will remember – How they became part of your personal inventory. By listing ones ‘’Needs and Preferences,’’ we are listing the very things we consider important for our survival. We will then see the attitudes, we have come up with, to get our ‘’N’s and P’s,’’ met. They can be surprisingly creative, when HONESTY gets involved. Be Well.

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