YOUR NAME HERE --WITH ATTITUDE---I think most everyone has an ATTITUDE. As I have said before, I think the attitude came into being as soon as two people had different ways of doing things. They have different ideas and different ways that they have their ‘’Needs and Preferences,’’ met.
---We as Human Beings, can easily see how we are ALL very much the same and very different at the same time. At times these opposing mindsets ‘’face-off’’ against each other. I find myself saying that we ALL have the same ‘’emotions,’’ just over different things. You can be Sid, Kathy, Jim or Patty with an Attitude. If you think there is another way [usually better,] than you are deemed to have an Attitude [especially if you vocalize it.] We are also, well aware, how keeping an Attitude all ‘’bottled-up’’ inside, is NOT a good idea.
---We all have our Attitudes toward people, places and things as we move through this life. We interact with these things and eek out our existence. Some have a better time of it than others, it seems to me. It comes down to whatever Attitude you have to these three things, that measures your enjoyment. The less ‘’Needs and Preferences,’’ and the more refined an attitude – The HAPPIER one seems to be.
---Understanding acceptance, is very important, here. It is very helpful and freeing to accept others who have their sets of attitudes. We don’t HAVE to do battle with their attitudes if they differ from our own. You can see yours and see theirs and choose. It isn’t really necessary to make a contest or competition out of them , Unless for some reason it is important to show the world that you make good choices, or something. If you find yourself wanting the very thing someone else wants, see if there is a duplicate. Or see how really necessary you having this thing is. Is it worth having and why? Otherwise, it can seem counterproductive, all toll
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We Can Look At It This Way:
DENIAL- There Is A Better Way To See Things That We Now Acknowledge.
ANGER - Angry At The Fact That There Is A Better Way..
BARGAINING PHASE - This Will Depend On How Much You Resist Giving –Up Your Old Way., For The New One. Maybe, You Are NOT Really Convinced, Yet. You Will SUFFER To The Extent That You Hold On To The Old Way., And Resist Replacing It.
DESPAIR - Once, Again, The Helplessness You Experience, Depends On Your Ability To Let-Go.
ACCEPTANCE - The Final Phase Of Giving –Up An ‘’Old’’ Idea Or Attitude. You Are Free Of It And Accept A New Way Of Doing Things..
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---We go from a selfishness to a selflessness, as we grow. ALL we are really doing is CLEARING out THINGS that CLUTTER our psyches. Acceptance of what is true and good is NATURAL. All we are really doing is getting rid of things that are just getting in the way. We find that everything has that quality - to get in the way. The wisdom of it is – To know when to hold ‘em’ and when to fold ‘em.
---It is really only good for us, when it is good for the whole team, simultaneously. We learn this lesson as we go. Other than that, we are probably moving between being very selfish or martyrdom. These are much the same thing. They are both self-centered.
----Keep your attitude positive and very accepting. Keep it light and keep it simple. Work toward being more Objective and don’t take comments and remarks so personally. I am aware that this is sometimes much easier said than done. But, when push comes to shove, it is better NOT to hold-on to things you really don’t need.
Be Well.
