Sunday, March 18, 2007


By Charles Swindoll

---‘’The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of ATTITUDE on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home.
---The remarkable thing is we have a choice regarding the ATTITUDE we embrace for that day. We cannot change our past, we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing that we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our ATTITUDE.
---I’m convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so with you. We Are In Charge Of Our ATTITUDES.’’

[The Essay Above Was Contributed By My Brother, Peter. He Was A Skydiver. It, [The Essay,] Is Something That Has Meant A Lot To Him, To Me, To ALL Of Us. Living Effectively, ALL Comes Down To ATTITUDE, Doesn't It?]

Sunday, March 11, 2007



---I think most everyone has an ATTITUDE. As I have said before, I think the attitude came into being as soon as two people had different ways of doing things. They have different ideas and different ways that they have their ‘’Needs and Preferences,’’ met.
---We as Human Beings, can easily see how we are ALL very much the same and very different at the same time. At times these opposing mindsets ‘’face-off’’ against each other. I find myself saying that we ALL have the same ‘’emotions,’’ just over different things. You can be Sid, Kathy, Jim or Patty with an Attitude. If you think there is another way [usually better,] than you are deemed to have an Attitude [especially if you vocalize it.] We are also, well aware, how keeping an Attitude all ‘’bottled-up’’ inside, is NOT a good idea.
---We all have our Attitudes toward people, places and things as we move through this life. We interact with these things and eek out our existence. Some have a better time of it than others, it seems to me. It comes down to whatever Attitude you have to these three things, that measures your enjoyment. The less ‘’Needs and Preferences,’’ and the more refined an attitude – The HAPPIER one seems to be.
---Understanding acceptance, is very important, here. It is very helpful and freeing to accept others who have their sets of attitudes. We don’t HAVE to do battle with their attitudes if they differ from our own. You can see yours and see theirs and choose. It isn’t really necessary to make a contest or competition out of them , Unless for some reason it is important to show the world that you make good choices, or something. If you find yourself wanting the very thing someone else wants, see if there is a duplicate. Or see how really necessary you having this thing is. Is it worth having and why? Otherwise, it can seem counterproductive, all toll

We Can Look At It This Way:
DENIAL- There Is A Better Way To See Things That We Now Acknowledge.
ANGER - Angry At The Fact That There Is A Better Way..
BARGAINING PHASE - This Will Depend On How Much You Resist Giving –Up Your Old Way., For The New One. Maybe, You Are NOT Really Convinced, Yet. You Will SUFFER To The Extent That You Hold On To The Old Way., And Resist Replacing It.
DESPAIR - Once, Again, The Helplessness You Experience, Depends On Your Ability To Let-Go.
ACCEPTANCE - The Final Phase Of Giving –Up An ‘’Old’’ Idea Or Attitude. You Are Free Of It And Accept A New Way Of Doing Things..

---We go from a selfishness to a selflessness, as we grow. ALL we are really doing is CLEARING out THINGS that CLUTTER our psyches. Acceptance of what is true and good is NATURAL. All we are really doing is getting rid of things that are just getting in the way. We find that everything has that quality - to get in the way. The wisdom of it is – To know when to hold ‘em’ and when to fold ‘em.
---It is really only good for us, when it is good for the whole team, simultaneously. We learn this lesson as we go. Other than that, we are probably moving between being very selfish or martyrdom. These are much the same thing. They are both self-centered.
----Keep your attitude positive and very accepting. Keep it light and keep it simple. Work toward being more Objective and don’t take comments and remarks so personally. I am aware that this is sometimes much easier said than done. But, when push comes to shove, it is better NOT to hold-on to things you really don’t need. Be Well.

Saturday, March 10, 2007



---When we have the right attitude, we can do almost anything. When our attitude is right, there is very little that can stop us. When our attitude is wrong for the situation we are in, getting out safely becomes something we are not sure of.
---There are so many words that we have to define our ''attitudes.'' We can be happy, sad, confident, needy, etc.. Our feelings to what we are relating to, denote the attitude we have towards it. Our attitudes cross all of Human Emotion.
---When we are comfortable with what we are relating to, we are more relaxed. The opposite is also true - If we are NOT comfortable with what we relate to, we are nervous, more stressed, tense, whathaveyou. This is reflected in our BP, also.
---I tend toward being anxious and excitable. My BP reflects that. It would do me well to take things more in stride and to not be such a ''People - Pleaser.'' This is my MO - What do I do?
---Let's look at PP. I have sought approval for as long as I can remember. I don't become involved in ''things'' that may not elicit approval. I become very much conscious of my own self - image and what people may think.
---If I engage myself in things that enhance my image to myself and others, than I am on ‘’the beaten path.’’ If I find that I am doing something that I myself have not accepted, than I am ‘’looking’’ to the ‘’judging’’ eyes of another, to see how what I‘m doing may affect the perception of me.
---When we have an OBJECTIVE Attitude and
Outlook, we seem to do better. We see things as they are as opposed to putting our own SUBJECTIVE spin on things. What we want to do is to’’see’’ the NEEDS and PREFERENCES that have us make the choices we do.
---I would suggest that you look at a list you make of ‘’Needs and Preferences,’’ and see which are real and separate out the ones you only ‘’think’’ you need. With this list, it should be clear to you where you stand and why you have the ATTITUDES you do. There is a good chance you will remember – How they became part of your personal inventory. By listing ones ‘’Needs and Preferences,’’ we are listing the very things we consider important for our survival. We will then see the attitudes, we have come up with, to get our ‘’N’s and P’s,’’ met. They can be surprisingly creative, when HONESTY gets involved. Be Well.