HIERARCHIES CAN BE A DESTRUCTIVE FORCE TO THE HUMAN PSYCHE

I was struck by the story of the Baboon troupe that became more gentle and nicer after the alpha males were removed (killed by accidentally eating tainted meat.) It seems that most of the excess stress was caused in the society by the unfocused alpha males who would bully the others (brawn over brain.) 

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CAROL DWECK ~ The POWER of YET (TEDtalk!)

The POWER of NOT YET

And, The TYRANNY of NOW

The TYRANNY of NOW

---She is speaking of the mindset where one thinks that effort and actually learning something is looked upon as a bad thing. After all, ‘’being smart’’, everything should be effortless and easy and just ‘’come to you.’’ Somehow you should already know it.

The POWER of NOT YET

---The power of NOT YET seems much less pressure making letting you know that even if you’re not quite there AS OF YET it is in your future. You are heading in the right direction. There is a learning curve AND you are on it.

CAROL DWECK - PERFECTIONISM!

---Carol Dweck is a psychology professor at Stanford. She wrote the book called MINDSETs.

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VALUES USUALLY GOVERN ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIORS!

Values Usually Govern

Attitude + Behavior

---Our values usually govern our attitudes and behaviors. If we have a value system that sees our fellow man as being part of the family of man that we belong to…one tends to want the most for him. ‘’You want him to be The BEST that he can be.’’

---If we find ourselves competing and comparing ourselves with his achievements…we will find ourselves always working on keeping up with the Jones - or whatever ''IN'' EXPRESSION best represents that condition nowadays. It is easy to have jealousy and envy rearing its head in there. We, probably, will spend much time on whatever is trendy as opposed to thinking on your own.

---Values produce attitudes and hence we behave accordingly. As we wrote before - when we don’t like someone, these or this dynamic is what we’re usually referring to. If that person behaved differently he would push different buttons in us and we would undoubtedly have a different experience of him. We would probably be responding to whatever different behavior that he is now using in front of us. Be Well.