IMPORTANT: MEETING REAL NEEDS!

  DOWNGRADE THE LEVEL (AFTERMATH) OF THE STORM (TRAUMA) THAT SWEPT THROUGH YOUR CHILDHOOD!

---There exists a tool that helps folks understand why they feel as they do and why they act as they do. This tool consists of answering a set of questions that yields answers that allows trained individuals to predict what diseases they are heading toward based on the different traumas we may have had in our childhood.

What are the 9 ACES - adverse childhood experiences?

In the Minnesota BRFSS survey, respondents were asked if they had experienced any of the following nine types of ACEs: physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, mental illness of a household member, problematic drinking or alcoholism of a household member, illegal street or prescription drug use by a household member.

---Some people have had such horrendous things happen to them. A child who has experienced such depravity and negativity in their lives is compared to PTSD. It's like spending time in combat never knowing any peace always high-strung and anxious ready for the second shoe to drop at any moment. They can be easily triggered and transported to a time when they were actually in a situation where these anxieties were a reality.

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---Not everyone experienced this kind of negativity. It is realized that mostly everyone has had something or other that was traumatic in someway. We all have something we'd rather not have been through, but when we come out the other-side we realize that we learned a lot of valuable things in the process. It sort of makes the whole thing worthwhile. Discover what YOUR REAL NEEDS are and get them met!

---Acceptance plays a big part in this, but is more a goal of the process and nothing to worry about near the beginning. That is one of those things that we are never sure we've surpassed until that day arises when we realize we are NO LONGER stuck in that cycle.

---Did you ever wonder why some people do better than other people. Did you ever wonder why some folks seem to rise up against all odds and kind of ‘get it’ while others do not. Are you curious to find out what some people are seeing while others don’t seem to have a clue. They have been able to forgive and accept where at other times, seemed impossible. If we watch television at all, we don’t have to go far to be told that the only real limits set on us are the ones that we put there. There is really no one to blame but ourselves!?!? We are holding on to the pain instead of forgiving and allowing the acceptance to come in. Don't Fault Yourselves Because of This. You Might NOT Be Quite Ready...YET! Someday You Will...but, NOT YET! REMEMBER: That's The Goal...NOT The Reality as of YET!

---Are we being lied to for the umpteenth time. Are we being handed another bill of goods that won’t work? We have heard it all before. It just sounds like another bunch of bull. The answer is NO, to that!

---There are ways to escape or at least manage the traumas we experienced in our childhoods. It shows how the kinds of things that happened early in our lives are probably still doing a number on us years or even decades later. Why are we still victims all these years later. What happened happened...whatever that was. Are we still under that spell that fueled the ship many years ago OR are we ready to take a good look at that fuel and make changes to upgrade where necessary? Are we ready to use some of the new technologies to bring us from the dark ages into a light that more and more are seeing and experiencing daily...making REAL CHANGES that last and don’t seem to fade, along the way.

https://michaelgquirke.com/what-are-the-10-aces-of-trauma-how-can-you-begin-to-face-them/

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MANY PLACES TO RESEARCH!

GET YOUR NEEDS MET...ABE MASLOW!

This Is My Latest Slideshow/Video

''GET YOUR NEEDS MET...ABE MASLOW''

Pub. 7/17/21

 

Mindset by Carol Dweck FULL audiobook

FULL AUDIO BOOK

Anxiety: Stop Negative Thoughts

ANXIETY

WORTH WATCHING

SEEMA SEHGAL MD.

CHI, GOD-FORCE, VIRIDITAS,

CHRIST WITHIN, GOLDEN BUDDHA...REFERS TO MUCH THE SAME THING

KEY TO DOING WELL - (IN or OUT of...The SYSTEM!)

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Earl Nightingale - It is all about Attitude

ATTITUDE - EARL NIGHTINGALE

THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT SPEECH from

my PERSPECTIVE!

HEALING ATTITUDE - KINDNESS

 

IT's STILL FIXABLE!

LET's FIX THINGs!

PLEASE READ!

LEARN TO MAKE MISTAKEs!

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BRAIN - FITNESS

BRAIN-FITNESS

---About 30 years ago, strict bedrest was required after a heart attack. Movement and exercise were seen as enemies in the game. Then, gradually the benefit of exercise became understood. It came to the point that everyone has a gym membership or some kind of regimen in life that includes exercise. As a result, we, as a people, have become healthier.

---It seems that we have now become ready for the next step in our evolution. We are accustomed to the fact that the body does better with exercise. Now, the brain seems to be next. Through, neuroplasticity, we now understand that the brain does better with exercise. Exercise has worked on the body and now we see that a series of exercises have been developed that improves our thinking. Just as the doctor said ‘’use them or lose them’’ when discussing my legs, the same term applies to the brain and its’ parts. Use them or lose them. There is a quote by Stephen Hawking that seems to fit here, ‘’Don’t be disabled spiritually as well as physically.’’

---We can definitely do things that help improve our minds. At one time we were told that we have what we have and through some kind of draw we were stuck being the way we were born. Now, science is telling us that that is not true. We don’t have to be a 97 lb weakling, mentally or physically, unless that is what we want. Realistically, I’m sure there are some limits on the possibilities, but according to science, we are NOT as stuck as we once thought. Be Well.

The IMPORTANCE of APPRECIATION!

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LAO-TZU Learns From ABE MASLOW!

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AN ATTITUDE of GRATITUDE; But in a suit?

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HANDBOOK TO HIGHER CONSCIOUSNESS!

The pdf is back

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The HANDBOOK to HIGHER CONSCIOUSNESS.

---Here is a book that I read a number of years ago. I re-read much of it AND still think it's great. I highly recommend it. As a matter of fact, I challenge you to read the first 11 pages. I would almost wager that you'll want to continue!

To Focus Properly

To FOCUS PROPERLY

I Spent Much of My Time

Thinking My Parents Were Right

Most of The Time

Everything Said by My Teachers,

My Relatives,

People I Knew to Be Older,

And, At One Time People in General.

I Was Much TOO Gullible

I Didn’t Think for Myself

And, Believed Everything I Heard

I Had an Awful Lot to Learn,

I Thought!

The Years Have Gone By

And My Eagle Has Died

That's When I Began To Open My Eyes

I Finally Could See I Was Living Their Lies

I Realized Being Paralyzed

By My Fears

Was My Way of Life

 Free Movement of any Sort

Was Becoming Uncommon

There Were Many Things That

Weren’t Necessarily So

That Didn’t Involve

Living in a Whale

Or Being Called Jonah

I Learned the Importance of Unlearning

I Learned You Could Strike with the Cover Open

At Times

Some of it did Hold Water

And, Some Still Does

But, There Are Things That Should Have Been Sent

To the Preposterous Department

Many Years Ago.

Like Removal of Certain Tags on Furniture

That Will Result in Immediate Imprisonment,

That People in Authority Were Always Honest,

The Easter Bunny & Santa Make Their Way to My House

Once A Year,

And, I Could Go to Hell for

Practically Anything!

I Realized Good Judgment &

Knowing Thyself

Were Actually Good Things to Do

Everything Has Come Into question

At One Time or Another.

I’m Feeling Much Better Now

And It’s Almost Lunchtime

I Have That Going for me

And, I Guess, Other Things, TOO,

When It Comes Right Down to It!

WINNING/LOSING ATTITUDEs!

Striking Differences Between Winners and Losers

---In my quest to post things that may be found useful in one's journey of self-improvement, I found a list of 33 traits that are shared by winners and losers. I am NOT calling anyone names through this, this is what I do. Ever since I discovered that one could actually improve and make his life better...I have been at this. I am sure that being born as I was (missing fingers, etc.,) has much to do with my venture into this career...if you will.

Winners Losers

1 Winners focus on solutions. Losers focus on problems.

2 Winners take responsibility. Losers blame others.

3 Winners find opportunities in crisis. Losers complain about crisis.

4 Winners enjoy being in the present and learn from the past. Losers live in the past.

5 Winners make commitment and keep them no matter what. Losers make promises that they always break.

6 Winners think about how they can achieve. Losers give excuses.

7 Winners make personal development a priority. Losers neglect personal development.

8 Winners face their fear, accept it and take the leap. Losers dwell in their fear.

9 Winners constantly expand their comfort zone. Losers stay in their comfort zone.

10 Winners take action consistently. Losers refrain from taking action and lack consistency.

11 Winners take failure in their stride and learn from them. Losers fear failure and avoid them at all cost.

DIFFERENCEs -

Winner's and Loser's

Second Installment

12 Winners try different strategies when they are not getting the results they want. Losers do the same thing over and over again expecting different results.

13 Winners set goals. Losers lack goals.

14 Winners plan. Losers hate having a plan.

15 Winners believe there are always things to be learn. Losers consider themselves as an expert even though they know little.

16 Winners are humble. Losers are egoistic.

17 Winners continue to hone their skill every other day without fail. Losers make little effort in honing their skill.

18 Winners work hard. Losers avoid work.

19 Winners give their best for the things that they decide to do. Losers work half heartedly in everything that they do.

20 Winners are persistent and will do whatever it takes (ethical means) to achieve their goal. Losers give up when obstacles pop up.

21 Winners manage their time well and indulge in high value activities that will bring them closer to their goals. Losers lack time management skills and indulge in time wasting activities like playing games and watching re runs for the umpteen time.

22 Winners dream in the day. Losers dream in bed.

Striking Differences Between Winners and Losers

23 Winners think about possibilities. Losers focus on obstacles that will stop them from achieving.

24 Winners are certain. Losers doubt.

25 Winners control their own destiny. Losers leave everything to their fate.

26 Winners give more than they take. Losers take more than they give.

27 Winners think whether the crowd is going in the right direction. If not, he will walk the other direction. Losers follow the crowd.

28 Winners think and lead. Losers refuse to think so they follow.

29 Winners listen. Losers fight for every chance to talk.

30 Winners always find a better way to do things. Losers stick to one way of doing things.

31 Winners spend money in seminars and classes to improve themselves. Losers think that spending money on seminars and classes is a waste of money and they prefer to buy toys that gives them instant gratification.

32 Winners help others to win. Losers refuse to help and think only about their own benefit.

33 Winners find like minded people like themselves that can bring them to greater height. Losers don't.

Final Installment of three.

The RIGHT ATTITUDE LOWERs STRESS!

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HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

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WILL THE ''REAL'' F-word...PLEASE, STAND-UP!

Will The ''REAL''

F-word...Please, Stand Up.

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---From the standpoint of behaviors, it makes sense that I would choose FRUSTRATION as my F-word of choice. I think I have made a case for it, and since we ALL seem to be flirting with being frustrated, it seems a viable choice.

---We, also, have FASCISM, to be part of the mix. If we take it broadly, we can define it as imposing our will on others. My way or the highway, comes to mind. The dictator, itself, could be the idea that things have to be done in a certain way...with some kind of violent repercussion, for those who don't cut it.

---The Catholic religion was taught that way to me...with Hell always hanging in the balance. I could ''earn,'' an eternity in Hell, for the slightest infraction. It was ALL so unreasonable. Fascism fits in here, somewhere. The misunderstanding of Love, has made God, Jesus and the Pope out to be dictators...with NO room for development. [Some of the popes, actually, acted the part, and greatly promoted the idea that God and Jesus were dictators, first. They never actually said that God, etc., were dictators, they just portrayed, taught and, I would say, believed this, themselves.] That is what happens to those who don't really understand LOVE. Everything tends to be FEAR BASED. That is when ALL the rules + policies...come out.

---I, myself, do not see life this way. I had to break my ties with the church to find out who I am...and to see what Jesus, et. al., were talking about, throughout the ages. I found that if one truly finds what LOVE is, himself, then he/she finds that many other interpretations are NOT necessary. BE LOVING + KIND. It is still the finest thing around.

---The truth, then, is NOT so complicated. In this way, we can see that the way Catholicism was taught to me, makes it to be another Fascism...and makes Fascism another F-word, I have had to deal with. The dictatorship of thought that I had to deal with, has created much of my FRUSTRATION. Eliminating one has eliminated the other. Take Care.

A POSITIVE DEFINITION OF BADASS!

Badass - VERY POSITIVE: AUTHENTIC!

THIS MAY BE VERY EYE-OPENING TO SOME OF US.  IT MEANs TO BE OUR AUTHENTIC-SELVEs! 

A badass isn't someone who wears ripped leather jackets, a badass isn't someone who breaks stuff to look tough, and a badass isn't someone who fights for the fun of fighting. That's the definition of a poser. Being a badass is completely different. Don't confuse the two terms.

Unspoken Rules of Being Badass: 
1. First rule of being a badass. A badass does not talk about being a badass. Period.

2. Second rule of being a badass, a badass does not try to be a badass or look tough. A badass simply is a badass.

3. A badass stays true to themselves, always. This means being themselves for themselves, and not being fake to impress others.

4. A badass does not give up. Badasses will always push themselves for the better, no matter how hard it gets.

5. A badass is not a jerk. A badass does not prey on the weak, and shows kindness in return to those who are kind.

6. A badass knows his/her limits. Don't be stupid, you're not Superman, you'll die if you jump off a building.

7. A badass does not make enemies or go looking for fights. They do not fight fights that aren't worth fighting either.

Any breaking of these rules is grounds revoking of the status of being a badass. If this happens, a badass must once again prove they are worthy of being badass by following the rules. A badass can only be determined by the opinions of others